We brought in the New Year last eve, dining at one of our favorite little Italian
restaurants, sitting at the bar eating probably the best Bucatini
all’ Amatriciana in town. We talked about the decision to look forward -- not back -- and to celebrate the many next generation(s) of
family, friends, neighbors, students, colleagues, clients and others who continue to give meaning to
our life.
Trust me, it often requires intention (aka attitude) to celebrate the future and to shape our life experiences going forward. To keep my momentum, I long ago posted a one-page chart from a well-worn book above my standing desk. The chart lists numerous traits or symptoms that best describe both an “Open” and a “Contracted” life experience …
OPEN
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CONTRACTED
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Ease
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Effort
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Prevailing trust
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Constant worry
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Relaxed body
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Congestion
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“Can do” attitude”
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“Can’t happen” attitude
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Collaborative
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Competitive
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Curious, asking questions
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Judgmental, defensive
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Sees opportunities
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Sees obstacles
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Generous
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Withholding
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Willing to take risks
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Hyper-cautious
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Laughs easily at self
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Takes self too seriously
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Energized
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Exhausted
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Fighting FOR
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Fighting AGAINST
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Resilient
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Resigned
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Grateful
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Keeping score
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Releasing things easily
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Hanging on
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Makes clear requests and agreements
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Unspoken or value expectations
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Generative, accountable
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Consumptive, “victim”
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Wholehearted, courageous and bold
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Conflicted, fearful and timid
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Victoria Castle, The Trance
of Scarcity (2007)
To celebrate the future is like taking off that tight shoe. It is a choice that does not happen by itself -- it requires not only intention but also action, especially during these complex times. For that, be bold and remember Mr. Wendell Berry’s words which always spur me on … “It may be that when we no longer know what to do, we have come to our real work and when we no longer know which way to go, we have begun our real journey.” Happy New Year.
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